Saturday, March 28, 2015

The Avacado Pit: A Metaphor for Traumatic Memories



A metaphor for understanding trauma that I have learned from my training in Rapid Resolution Therapy:

When zebra sees lion the brain of zebra causes him to feel fear.  The fear serves three specific purposes – 1) it causes zebra to be very alert, 2) it increases zebra’s motivation, and 3) it increases zebra’s strength.  This allows zebra to run very fast to get away from lion.  When lion catches another zebra and is no longer a threat, the fear is instantly gone.  Zebra returns to his grazing and everything is fine.  If I could speak “Zebra” I could ask zebra, “So, what do you think about that lion that was just chasing you?”  Zebra would look at me and ask, “What lion?”

Our brains differ from the brain of the zebra in many ways.  One of the main ones is in how we store and recall data.  You might be able to remember some mundane incidents from yesterday – what you were wearing or a conversation you had.  You might not be able to recall what you were wearing a year ago today.  However, we could say that the memory is stored in your brain.  It is just not that easily recalled.  On the other hand, you might be able to recall in great detail something traumatic that happened five years ago.  More than likely that data is experienced in “high definition.”  Sometimes it is experienced as if it is happening right now.

You might be familiar with how a garbage disposal works.  Spaghetti, bell pepper stems, cucumber peels, and pretty much anything you put down the garbage disposal goes right through – no problem.  But, the garbage disposal doesn’t work so well when it comes to the avocado pit.  It gets stuck in the garbage disposal.  We would then need to use some sort of avocado-pit-destroyer to break it up so that it goes through and is no longer stuck.  

The data in someone’s mind related to traumatic experiences are like that avocado pit.  It is “stuck data.”  We can call it a “data clump.”  Some people have many data clumps that are stuck and that still cause them problems.  This data is stuck in a part of the brain that is close to “the surface” – close to where current incoming data passes through.  If incoming data is similar in content to the stuck data, it will “trigger” the stuck data and the brain will cause the person to think it is happening all over again.

A woman who was raped by a man with alcohol on his breath when she was 16 yrs. old smells alcohol on her boyfriend’s breath when he kisses her six years later.  She panics, pushes him off of her, and locks herself in the bathroom.  A man who witnessed several of his buddies die in an explosion while serving in the military in Iraq hears a car backfire in his neighborhood.  He falls down on the floor and covers his head.  He no longer realizes that he is home and all is safe. 

Our objective in Rapid Resolution Therapy is to clear out these data clumps.  That way the person is finally able to live fully in the present moment – free of fear.  A kiss is just a kiss.  A car back firing is just a car back firing.  The avocado pit is through, and the garbage disposal is working as good as new.  

(To learn more about RRT visit www.rapidresolutiontherapy.com.  If you or someone you know is interested in scheduling a session with me, please visit www.billyledford.com)

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